# 3: No Details About Past Relationships, Please

Past relationships are part of our history. They are like practice for the real match—commitment and/or marriage. We learn from them—things like what we want and what we don’t want in a relationship. We also get curious about past relationships of our significant other. Beyond that, we are afraid to get short-changed or the last one to know that there might be some ‘old spark from the past that can easily be reignited to a burning flame’.  However, past relationship issues can easily become a slippery slope.

If necessary, it is okay to name names and give estimated timelines but no specifics please. Why? Because life is tough and we usually look to our life-partner for security and reassurance. Every day we get hit by all kinds of issues and at the end of the day we sometimes feel vulnerable and doubtful and want to know who’s on our side.

Very often, the details of past relationships creep up when people feel the most vulnerable about love and trust. Imagine your significant other looking at you and thinking about the scenarios you’ve generously and graphically described---things can only get complicated with that kind of stuff.

So keep details from past relationships to yourself. They are your life lessons but are inappropriate for your current relationship.