You’ve read the poems, listened to the songs, heard the
stories and perhaps experienced it yourself---when people are in love they want
to spend every waking moment together. That’s all fine and good but when that
happens, the other people in their lives move on to other things.
To be fair, the older we get the harder it is to maintain
and develop relationships. When we enter into a committed relationship like
marriage, priorities change and without thought, planning and effort, we could
lose great friendships that we worked to so hard to build.
Couples should definitely take the time they need and get to
know each other better. People are generally understanding when it comes to that. However,
make sure to keep family and friends in the loop. Make an occasional call, send an
email or a text to stay connected---you'll be glad you did. Why?
Keeping connected to people outside of a romantic relationship is
enriching and beneficial, whether done individually or as a couple. Healthy
connections can provide a breath of fresh air into a marriage. When we make
time to connect with others, we get a break from “our world” and can focus on
other things or people; we can relax and enjoy the company of others; we can
learn and share; and we can provide assistance or contribute to something bigger
than 'us'. Experts say that such connections make us healthier and happier
individuals.
Be creative when you’re connecting with others. You don’t always
have to do lunch, dinner or coffee. You can meet to workout, go to an event, go
shopping or sight-seeing, work on a project together, or do anything that you are both interested in. Finding a variety of ways to connect will keep
things interesting and fresh.
What I value the most about keeping connected to others is that it helps to keep me grounded and I am usually participating as an individual and not as part of a couple—there’s a difference.
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