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There is power in tens so this is the perfect time to stop and review the first 10 ways to make love last that I have suggested.

#1: Know what you want—make a list. You know what they say: if you don’t know what it is you’re looking for, you will end up with “whatever”—and that is not a good thing. So take some time to think it through, get a pen and paper and start making a list. What do you want in a partner? I know it sounds cheesy but it really works.

#2: Let Your Guard Down – Relax. As the relationship matures, you should be able to let your guard down, so that the other person sees and learns about the many different aspects (great and not so great) about you and your life. And if they really care about you and love you as they profess, it should be ‘all good’.

#3: Please, No Details about Past Relationships. Knowing the details of past relationships will only creep up during the times when you feel the most vulnerable about love and trust. You don’t want your significant other looking at you and imagining the scenarios you’ve generously and graphically described---doubts could get the better of them. So keep details from past relationships to yourself.

#4: Get to know your significant other better by asking questions. Chances are you’ll never know if you don’t ask. No question is a dumb question—as long as it’s important to you, it is valid.

#5: Make It Fun! It’s all about being in the moment and learning how to enjoy the simple things in spite of everything else.

#6: Use positive words. The words you use to address each other impact your relationship in a big way. Negative words and attitudes hurt the relationship and can potentially tarnish your love and trust for one another and eventually pull you apart.

#7: Express Your Love on Valentine's Day. In my opinion, set-aside holidays serve as a wonderful reminder to do those things that we get so busy and easily forget to do. So my suggestion will be to take advantage of Valentine’s Day. The important thing is that you take the time to spend some quality time together and express you love for each other.

#8: R-E-S-P-E-C-T. Take a look at the unique circumstances of your relationship and decide how to build a respectful one. Remember that you earn respect by giving it to another.

#9: Make Sex a Priority. You probably know that sex has many benefits including improved health. Be present when lovemaking to ensure that sex is enjoyable and beneficial. My motto, if you’re going do it anyway, you better make sure it is great!

#10: Stay Connected to Other People. Keeping connected to people outside of a romantic relationship is enriching, whether done individually or as a couple. Healthy connections can provide a breath of fresh air into a marriage. When we make time to connect with others, we get a break from “our world” and can focus on other things or people; we can relax and enjoy the company of others; we can learn and share; and we can provide assistance or contribute to something bigger than just ‘us.’ Experts say that such connections make us healthier and happier individuals.

Now on to more ways.....stay tuned!