I’ve always been a sort of question box for as long as I can
remember. People would sometimes say to me, “What kind of question is that?” My
answer, the kind I’m wondering about. Curiosity has served me well when it
comes to love and relationships. Here’s why.
Chances are you’ll never know if you don’t ask. No question
is a dumb question—as long as it’s important to you, it is valid.
At the beginning of a relationship, you can literally stare
at your lover’s face for moments on end and not have to say anything--you are content
with just being in their presence. That gets old and boring quickly and pretty
soon you find yourself looking for something—anything—to fill the newly
discovered silence. Then you resort to things like, so…what are you thinking? How
was your day? And so on.
Think about things you really want to know about your
significant other; things that really matter to your relationship now and in
the future. I’m not suggesting that you make a list of questions and conduct an
interview or bombard them with questions until you drive them crazy.
Come up with a variety of questions that you’re interested
in but also, if you listen and observe them, you will get some ideas about what kinds
of things they appreciate sharing or talking about. Asking meaningful questions
will make your significant other feel like you are interested in who they are, what
they think, and what they want. You will also get to know them better and strengthen
your bond.
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