So there are times in a relationship when things aren’t going the way we would like them to or perhaps the other party is not ‘playing to the script’ and we get disappointed, angry and decide that we are just going to shut down and go on a sort of strike until the other person notices, repents and only then would we in turn bestow the love and treatment that they deserve ---and all will be well.Well, from someone who has tried this tactic in the past, it DOES NOT WORK! And if you continue to do it with ‘what you believe’ are some positive results, then you are behaving or being treated like a child.
Here’s a better way to go about it: be straight forward with your significant other about how you feel about the situation; hear the other person out; together, decide what would be the course of action the next time it happens again. This way, it’s on the table and out in the open along with what’s needed to happen in order to avoid another episode like this. If after this talk it happens again, then your conversation will have to be even deeper and if it happens a third time around, then there’s a serious disregard for the other’s feelings and agreed upon rules.
The third time’s the charm. If you are the person whose feelings are being disregarded, figure out how you can best serve your desires and well-being. Consult with a trusted source and make the decision that’s best for YOU.
To have a loving and respectful relationship, all parties MUST be committed to making it so.
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