Are you a hugger? Or do you like smooches? How about an ass-slapping?
Prefer to mix it up?
I’m asking you these things because any one of them (or a
combination) can work wonders for your relationship! There is power in
intentional actions—no matter what the goal. In this instance, the goal is to
establish physical contact.
One of the best decisions my husband and I made early on in our
marriage was to kiss when we greet or depart from each other. So depending on
our comings and goings each day, which can add up quickly when you consider the
dropping offs ad picking ups of kids and making much needed trips and errands, kisses
could be flying like crazy!
Okay—honestly—sometimes the smooch is so quick that you could miss
it if you just blink but the point is that had it not been for this rule, I
have no doubt that I would be kissing my husband significantly less. Not to
mention the times when I am not so pleased with him—and of course no one knows
it but me—so I still get to kiss him regardless. And oh, when we don’t kiss
each other then we know that there’s something VERY wrong but the making
up…kisses, that is….is sweet!
I digress…
Here is why intentional physical contact is important. Every time
we kiss or touch, even if for the briefest moments, it makes me more aware of
him—I see him and feel him and when we are apart (especially for days) I miss
them so much and yearn for those moments. They have become second nature and
expected, making me feel grateful for him and our love and commitment to each
other. And days when things are dark and scary I find myself lingering a bit
longer and taking a bit more time to savor the kiss; hell, sometimes I even
throw my arms around him and lay my head on his shoulders—that results to
raised eyebrow and a puzzled but pleased look every time.
But seriously, intentional physical contact forces a couple to
stop and acknowledge one another as if saying, “Hey, I see you.”
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