When it comes to talking about love and marriage, there is a
level of fear that many people experience for all kinds of reasons. The number
one reason is because of the uncertainties associated with love and marriage;
one moment, things can be going great and the next, it could be done. It is
difficult to reach a point where people feel like they have it all figured out.
Everything could seem fine and smooth-sailing and out of nowhere, one partner
could decide that it’s just not working out for them, to the complete and utter
surprise of the other. Another reason is because people are afraid of jinxing
what they have as if just by discussing their relationship would turn
everything for the worse. It’s kind of like bragging---many people are
uncomfortable with it and feel awkward in the spotlight.
One saying that was repeated a lot since I was a little girl
and to this day I still hear people saying is, “Don’t put your dirty laundry
out in the street for all to see. Keep it at home behind closed doors, away
from the world.” Well I know for a fact that sometimes you can save yourself a
lot of work and ‘good clothes’ if you share your challenges, learn from others’
mistakes and open up to trying new solutions.
Having been in a monogamous relationship for over fourteen
years, ten of which we’ve been married, qualifies me to share a thing or two
about building a lasting relationship. It is never easy and keeping things
going in the right direction is an ongoing and a never-ending process. As they
say, it takes two to tango. It is true that in order to have a successful
relationship, all parties must do the work that is required, but most
importantly, each person must understand and believe that they have both the
power and will to make it happen and in so doing, they must give it 105
percent.
This blog is about sharing my own knowledge, experiences and
lessons learned along the way. I welcome your participation.
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